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Our Family Plan

Our Family Plan

In January, most of us have been thinking about resolutions for the new year. What if this year, we spent our energy developing a family plan instead? 

Ten years ago, my wife Jessica asked me, “You have a life plan for yourself, a plan for your basketball team, a strategic plan for the school. Why don’t we have a plan for our family?” This pointed question sent me on a journey to develop a family plan the same way many would create a business or strategic plan. 

I have long been a fan of Patrick Lencioni's books like The Advantage, The Ideal Team Player, and Five Dysfunctions of a Team. I started my journey with his book, The 3 Big Questions for a Frantic Family. These questions were great for developing our family plan. I hope they help you as well. 

  • Question #1: What Makes Your Family Unique? This question helps identify your family's core values, providing a basis for decision-making. 
  • Question #2: What is Your Family’s Top Priority–Rallying Cry–What is most important right now? Know what the single most important objective is for your family over the next two to six months. Without a top priority, everything becomes important, and you react to whatever issues seem urgent that day.
  • Question #3: How Do You Discuss and Use the Answers to These Questions? It will yield no benefits if you answer the first two questions but don’t use those answers daily, weekly, and monthly decision-making.


  1. Set aside one hour to answer these three questions with your family. 
  2. Post the answers in a prominent place in your home. 
  3. Schedule a weekly meeting to review your week, considering the answers to these questions. 

Commit your way to the LORD; trust in Him, and He will act.  - Psalm 37:5